Thursday, January 26, 2006
Here Comes The Bride
Well, I'm going to cheat a bit this week. I'm in the midst of wedding mania. My brother is getting married tomorrow so I'm a bit on the frazzled side. I won't bore you with the details but suffice it to say there's mayhem and bedlam at my house (not to mention my parent's).
It isn't even my wedding and I'm stressed. I'm having serious flashbacks of my own blessed day almost 8 years ago. But despite all the details, conflicting schedules and appointments, the one thing that remains constant is the happiness my family feels. That's one reason we're trying so hard to make this day perfect. My brother and his wife deserve that. We love my SIL. My girls call her Aunt R and have for years. She's an amazing woman and she loves my brother. There's no question in my mind about that. They had their share of struggles in the beginning. But they worked through them and their relationship is now stronger for them.
As writers it's often easy to get caught up in the itty bitty details. And I know only a few weeks ago I was warning everyone to remember those details. But there's something else that is even more important. It's the heart of the story. The struggle through conflict to achieve the heart's desire - love.
Attending weddings always makes me happy to be a romance writer. There isn't anything more symbolic of the happily ever after than the moment two people stand up and vow to love each other. And even if the end result isn't what either of them hoped for, at that moment they're both eternally happy and optimistic.
I know I've found my own happily ever after with my husband. Certainly, we have our issues but anything worth having is worth working for. I hope each of you find that in your lives.
To My Brother and new Sister. May their lives be blessed with happiness and only the struggles necessary for them to appreciate each other all the more.