Monday, February 21, 2011
Small Steps to Successful Living: Internal Monologues
I’m finding myself at what I think is an important crossroads. With each small step I choose, I find resistance building. This may sound like a bad thing, but I’m not so sure it is.
A small setback appears? My internal monologue kicks in, “See, you knew this would never work” or “This is too hard, and if you can’t cut it for the small steps, you’ll never make huge strides.”
As Julia Cameron writes in the Artist’s Way, “As we gain strength, so will some of the attacks of self-doubt.”
The more I allow these attacks to continue, the less desire I have to pursue my goals. And why not? It’s just more chances for that internal voice to beat me up again (same goes for writing and the internal editor). You know the one – the voice that tells you you’ll never succeed, your writing isn’t polished enough, that you aren’t losing so you might as well eat that cookie…
The solution lies solely in our imaginations.
I’ve begun practicing one of Cameron’s strategies for fighting self-doubts. She calls these doubts ‘blurts’, and she instructs artists to counter each one with positive statements of truth. For example:
“A nap? Well aren’t you just lazy!”
“I work hard every day to support my family and deserve to rest.”
“Told you this would never work.”
“Each small step is working. My body feels more energetic when I exercise. Today simply didn’t work out.”
So many times we allow ourselves to be beat up by that internal drill sergeant, but we are hard-working mothers, wives, friends, employees, and volunteers.
Be gentle with yourself. We deserve it.
So tell me, how do you fight self-doubt and the internal editor? What is one of your most common blurts and a positive statement to counteract it?
I'm doing moderately well with my small steps goals. I'm currently on track in The Artist's Way, but not so on track with my exercise goals, so I'm renewing those goals for the rest of this month. How are your resolutions going?
Join us next Monday when guest author Rita Henuber visits the blog.