Monday, October 13, 2008
This won’t be pretty, but I must confess something. My nickname here on the Playground is Angel, but I don’t always have angelic tendencies. I tend to have a one-track mind. I’ll admit it (and my husband will back me up).
When I get started on something, I don’t want to stop or be interrupted until I’m done. If someone insists on breaking that focus, I tend to get, well, cranky. This is true whether I’m cleaning for an afternoon or writing a book over a period of months. Disturb me too often and not only am I grumpy, I’m very likely to give up on the task.
While this dogged determination helps me get things accomplished (positive), I often lose track and interest in anything that doesn’t mesh with my goal (negative). This issue was brought to my attention during my recent family vacation. Because we were away from home, I had nothing to focus on except my husband, my children, and enjoying each other.
That’s when I realized I’d been pushing them aside in order to accomplish my goals. I already had an inkling that when it came to writing, I could easily become a workaholic when things are flowing. You can’t tell it from my output, because I’m a slower writer, but if everyone would just leave me alone…
While we were gone, I rediscovered the smile that comes from watching my kids goof off. How much I learn about them when I actively listen when they talk, instead of just wondering when they’ll be done so I can get on with my current project. (That makes me sound really self-centered. Yikes!) The simple pleasure of teasing with my husband. Thinking deeper than just what it takes to get through my day on the surface.
The question is, how do I maintain a reminder of this truth now that we’re back to the daily grind? I don’t want to ignore them nor turn into a slacker. I want to maintain the positive parts of this trait, while letting go of the negative tendencies. Is that just a pipe dream? Anyone have advice for a balanced approach?
Tomorrow we welcome author Linda Wisdom as she guest blogs with us.